Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I couldn't help but think of the above adage as we said farewell to some dear friends who will be leaving us for the Deep South later this week. Saying good-bye is never easy, especially to people who mean so much to us, who are such an important part of our lives, but I wouldn't trade the pain for a non-existent (and painless) relationship.
I could see where, initially, keeping myself at a distance and not forging new friendships might seem like a good idea; after all, if I'm not in a relationship with someone, then I can't be hurt by (or inflict hurt on) the other person. On the other hand, then I cannot be the giver or recipient of a smile, a kind word, or a sincere conversation. Truly, that's what the adage is referencing.
Without one another, more specifically without loving and caring about one another, we miss out on life's greatest joys and blessings. Because of my friends, I've tried new foods, conquered (relatively speaking, of course!) physical challenges, and stepped out of my comfort zone. They've provided countless pieces of advice, many hugs, and innumerable fun times. Simply put: By loving others, I'm living life, not just doing it.
If avoiding the pain means avoiding all the happy memories, then I'll accept the pain. After all, my friends will be there by my side, loving me through the moment, just as they do the joyous times.
I could see where, initially, keeping myself at a distance and not forging new friendships might seem like a good idea; after all, if I'm not in a relationship with someone, then I can't be hurt by (or inflict hurt on) the other person. On the other hand, then I cannot be the giver or recipient of a smile, a kind word, or a sincere conversation. Truly, that's what the adage is referencing.
Without one another, more specifically without loving and caring about one another, we miss out on life's greatest joys and blessings. Because of my friends, I've tried new foods, conquered (relatively speaking, of course!) physical challenges, and stepped out of my comfort zone. They've provided countless pieces of advice, many hugs, and innumerable fun times. Simply put: By loving others, I'm living life, not just doing it.
If avoiding the pain means avoiding all the happy memories, then I'll accept the pain. After all, my friends will be there by my side, loving me through the moment, just as they do the joyous times.
2 comments:
I always appreciate it when people "get this"...especially as a military family. Its easy to sense when people are willing to risk investing in you and when they keep you at a distance when they realize you may move in a few years.
Love you!
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